Most of us have been taught to identify the negative associations with the word selfish and its opposing counterpart selfless. As a result, many have become unbalanced in developing personal behaviors and boundaries. How many times have you done something you didn’t want to do, entertained someone or something because you didn’t want to be rude, or committed to completing a task out of obligation and the fear of coming across selfish. So, you selflessly put the perception of others in front of your own and end up displeased and emotionally exhausted.

I can honestly say, that I too, was guilty of this. I became grudgingly content with going down the rabbit hole of people pleasing until I decided to be honest with myself about how I wanted to feel, daily. Making decisions for myself, with self being the key factor was challenging. Surprisingly, it wasn’t as easy I thought in the beginning and like they say, old habits can be hard to break but I was determined to create self driven habits for myself.

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After much practice of doing life differently and making decisions that coincided with living happily and intentionally. I am more free now, than I’ve ever been in my adulthood. Learning how to merge and manage all things “Self”, like, self-worth, self awareness, self love, and self care has literally been a life changer. Being able to create a healthy balance of self provoking thoughts has proven to be a useful tool in actualizing not only the life I want to live but also both romantic and professional relationships I wish to cultivate. If you’re struggling to find your sense of self. Start rediscovering yourself today with each decision you make. May you find true contentment and freedom with being a little more self-ish.

Speak to you soon,

An Aspiring Heart