When you fall in love with someone your relationship creates a foundation built from the interactions and emotions shared between the two of you.  Why is it that bond challenged when family or friends enter the realm of your relationship?  We should never have to choose between the two, right?

The confrontation comes when the love you have, for both, can no longer be equally shared with out strain.  There are several factors that can alter the perception of your mate or relationship.  One being, the meeting of the parents or parent, and close friends.  We long for that love to blend seamlessly in the relationship between the most important people in our life.  The common interest is you or course but some how that can get lost in translation as opinions are expressed.  Those dear to you can quickly become the jury of your relationship as they watch, listen and take note of EVERYTHING you disclose and EVERYTHING your mate  says or does in their presence, awaiting to decide the fate of that persons belonging.

How do you manage to demonstrate the importance of both relationships with out losing the battle of Loyalty vs Love?  To me, loyalty is being true or faithful to someone or something.  When deciding who to be loyal to, which love do you chose?  Do you chose your first love; family, your new love; mate or the love for yourself?

Loyalty to yourself should always win the battle against the obstacles that love presents to you.  After all, if you cant be loyal to yourself above all things…what level of commitment can you truly give to someone else or something else.

-Aspired Heart